Comment on Is it OK for middle agers to hit on young staff?
confusedbytheBasics@lemmy.world 5 months ago
If they flirt with you it’s cool the flirt back. Just don’t ask anyone out unless you are ready to be cool when they say no and be sure you are 100% interested in taking them seriously.
If you can’t take the no it’s creepy.
If you’re just trying to get a number to stoke your ego it’s creepy.
If you ask and accept the answer it’s fine.
If you flirt without hitting on or asking out you’ll often make their day. And if the vibe is off stop. It’s not that tricky.
Lovstuhagen@hilariouschaos.com 5 months ago
I think this is the right answer, and very succinctly stated, thank you!
confusedbytheBasics@lemmy.world 5 months ago
You’re welcome. It took me 10 years of making mistakes to figure out so it’s maybe not as easy as I make it sound. Really the key was getting out of my head and paying attention to them. Learning happens much quicker when I’m paying attention to the feedback I’m getting. Microexpression are powerful teachers.
Lovstuhagen@hilariouschaos.com 5 months ago
They certainly are - I think I have struggled to some degree with reading the audience right at times. It is very natural to miss things that people even try to hide or are not conscious of.
confusedbytheBasics@lemmy.world 5 months ago
Understanding and responding to microexpressions in context and in real time is a skill like swimming. You learn it in your body, you don’t think at all, you just do it. Good luck out there.