No meaningful consequences is definitely part of the problem. I was once told of a student who threw a chair at a TV. Breaking both chair and TV.

Consequences? He was given a card that says he was naughty, and was told to give it to his parents. The card was promptly thrown in the bin. Nothing else happened.

The soft touch approach is too soft. They’re being set up for failure in the real world. Can’t wait for them to try this shit at uni/tafe/job.