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GlitterInfection@lemmy.world ⁨7⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago

I’m not sure there’s a better way to put them, but I bristled at the two suggestions at a high level which tell me what to say or not say, and call out my being cis as a thing to be careful about.

Despite the bristling I read through them and found that they were things I wouldn’t say or do, and they were reasonable suggestions.

But especially the cis comment made me kind of worried. As the platform grows these types of desired policies are going to be drowned out by the majorities.

All of the proposed solutions are intentionally not scalable ones, and seem designed to keep the platforms smaller and protected. This makes absolute sense especially when held up beside the marginalized peoples who are asking for them’s experiences of being marginalized.

I hope that we can find ways that satisfy those needs even through growth. It would be interesting to see scalable opt-in solutions for this problem. It would especially be useful to integrate solutions into the protocol.

But in truth I was shocked to learn about robots.txt recently, and more shocked to hear how well-ish that type of solution worked until AI came along and ignored it. So it’a anyone’s guess as to how well similar solutions might work here.

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thenexusofprivacy@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
Thanks for the feedback – and thanks for reading them despite the bristling. I couldn’t come up with a better way to put them … I know they’ll cause some people to tune out, but oh well, what can you do.

I don’t think these solutions are inherently unscalable, it’s more that there hasn’t ever been a lot of effort put into figuring out how to make things scalable so we don’t have any great suggestions yet. I wrote about this some in The free fediverses should focus on consent (including consent-based federation), privacy, and safety (the article is focused on instances that don’t federate with Threads, but much of it including this section is true more generally):

There aren’t yet a lot of good tools to make consent-based federation convenient scalable, but that’s starting to change. Instance catalogs like The Bad Space and Fediseer, and emerging projects like the FIRES recommendation system. FSEP’s design for an"approve followers" tool, could also easily be adapted for approving federation requests. ActivityPub spec co-author Erin Shepherd’s suggestion of “letters of introduction”, or something along the lines of the IndieWeb Vouch protocol, could also work well at the federation level. Db0’s Can we improve the Fediverse Allow-List Model? and the the “fedifams” and caracoles I discuss in The free fediverses should support concentric federations of instances could help with scalability and making it easier for new instances to plug into a consent-based network.

(The post itself has links for most of these.)

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- GlitterInfection@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
  Thank you for the thoughtful response here.
  
  If it helps, I feel like “Be an ally if you’re cis and joining the conversation” might fit what you’re saying and wouldn’t have bristled me. But I recognize that it isn’t your responsibility to manage the emotions of people who have unquestioned privilege.
  
  I also hope this isn’t a weird question but I noticed that I have to turn my vpn off to see your site. Is that intentional?
  
  On the other stuff, I love that you’re talking about the importance of account migration, and I like the idea of the concentric federation.
  
  There’s a bit more in there about scalability. So it’s nice to see your thoughts around it. I was thinking that the opt-in process which messages you for approval was the closest to scalable from the former article, because it allows everyone the opportunity to opt in without requiring hidden knowledge.
  
  I guess finding a way to build opt-in into the protocol in some way would be the most scalable option in the long term. However that could work.
  
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  - thenexusofprivacy@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    Thanks for the tipoff on having to turn off the VPN, it’s not at all intentional – and it’s not a good look for a site with privacy in its name! I’ll try to figure out what’s going on, it’s pretty vanilla Ghost / nginx hosted on a Digital Ocean droplet so not immediately obvious.
    
    And yeah, it’ll be interesting to see how well the messaging you for approval works out in practice. As you could say it could look like phishing; and even if it’s fine when just one app is doing it, it’ll be annoying if there are hundreds. Also, there’s a Mastodon setting to silently ignore DMs (and I think other platforms have similar options as well). And for Bridgy Fed, it would be great to have a mechanism that works symmetrically between the fediverse and Bluesky … but Bluesky doesn’t have DMs. Tricky!
    
    I should probably mention something about being a good ally in that section, that’s a good suggestion. That’s not the main message I’m trying to convey though, I really do mean it as a warning to cis guys to be careful. These firestorms are tiresome for everybody, ould we please just not? Also btw sometimes particularly unpleasant for whoever sets them off. But maybe there’s a better way to word it.
    
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    GlitterInfection@lemmy.world ⁨6⁩ ⁨months⁩ ago
    That’s all fair. I can see what you meant after reading it, so maybe it’s more of a me thing than one you have to consider in any depth. I know I have issues around feeling heard that aren’t the general. And people who don’t like being called out for cis-typical behaviors tend to be various forms of awful people that don’t really need to be included.
    
    Anyway, thank you for the conversation and the blog posts. I’m using Hotspot Shield as a vpn, if that helps and looking at your site through Safari on my iPhone.
    
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