Comment on Finland school shooting: Bullying was the motive for attack that killed boy, 12, police say
wahming@monyet.cc 2 months agoI’m not about to blame a 12 year old for their actions. Life as a bullied kid can really, really suck. Depression and suicide are common effects of bullying, and as a kid you just don’t have the knowledge of how to deal with it.
If you bully / mentally abuse somebody to the point that they commit suicide, my opinion is that you are just as culpable as if you had murdered them yourself. By that standard, I don’t see much difference if the victim decides to lash out and take their bully with them. Especially if you’re a kid with no long term perspective.
eatthecake@lemmy.world 2 months ago
Maybe if the 12 year old bully had been held responsible for his behaviour then none of this would have happened. But you can blame a 12 year old for their actions, right?
wahming@monyet.cc 2 months ago
I know you’re being sarcastic, but I actually do agree. It was on the adults to make the situation better, not expect kids to be empathetic enough to not bully others
eatthecake@lemmy.world 2 months ago
If kids can’t be expected to not bully others then what can the adults do? If a child bears no responsibility for their behaviour then how do you get them to change? I really don’t understand.
wahming@monyet.cc 2 months ago
Educate the bully, punish the bully, remove opportunities for the bullying, whatever your preferred method. The onus is on the adults to prevent or put a stop to the bullying. The fact that things escalated as much as they did means that none of them stepped in, and that failure is on them.