It’s in our culture; to show great emotion is unseemly and embarrassing. To quote BBC Radio Four’s version of “The Secret Pilgrim” George Smiley, a spy, tells a group of trainees that the English make great spies because “You could be standing next to a man at the bus stop have a force four mental breakdown and you’d be none the wiser.” We must keep a “stiff upper lip”. Outbursts are for children. Has the unfortunate side effect that people don’t seek help when they really need it.