Sorry, I didn’t mean to poke at your anxieties! I was remarking on the arbitrary nature of the original post.

While you’re probably right that Eliezer is open to dating poly people, the post in question definitely appears to take a monogamous stance—that is, the question of whether to exchange one person for another of “higher value.”

Saying that you’re cool if

one my partners meets someone else they want to date at least as much as me, they do

is different from

I’d trade up if I found somebody 10%/25%/125% better than you

which is what the original post said.