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otp@sh.itjust.works 11 months agoIt seems like they’re alluding to “love languages”, but I believe attachment styles are something else
Comment on Do "chest pillows" hurt for women to do?
otp@sh.itjust.works 11 months agoIt seems like they’re alluding to “love languages”, but I believe attachment styles are something else
ivanafterall@kbin.social 11 months ago
It's similar, but not quite the same. For example, an avoidant attachment style will tend to avoid getting close, an anxious attachment style will fear being abandoned. Put them together and you get a constant cycle of the anxious person drawing close to the avoidant person. The avoidant person pulls away. The anxious person eventually gets wounded. Now the avoidant person turns on the love mode to draw them back in. Rinse and repeat. It's awful.
That's a simplified version. But that's the basic gist. It's how you operate in relationships from a fundamental level, more than what makes you feel loved.