I’ll look into some of those links you sent, thank you.

I did try linode which advertised one click setup for some of these apps. But it still required dancing just the right dance just the right way and SSH’ing into a linux computer to initialize everything. Once initialized only one of my computers can sync with it, my phone and other computers say invalid connection. After troubleshooting for several days I tore it down and built it back up and now none of my devices can connect.

I do have Proton and that was painless to setup, but when I share files using a public link other people only get a blank screen. They have basically nothing for photos.