You mean you’re not engaging with a nonbinary person. Which is your personal definition of transphobe. You know, if I was a cis man and a trans person told me I was being transphobic, I would at least spend 10 minutes questioning if I’m wrong. I’d do that basic courtesy. But if you’re telling me you’re incapable of that, then fine. I’ll let everyone else know exactly how you feel about the prospect of admitting maybe nonbinary people are real.