Comment on ‘It’s quite soul-destroying’: how we fell out of love with dating apps
figaro@lemdro.id 11 months agoMy advice to people here is usually all the same: stop worrying about it. Do stuff that you enjoy. I don’t even want to say work on yourself, because it implies that you are actually doing that in order to find somebody. Don’t even do that. Just do what you want to do.
Find meetup groups you want to do for you, not for the possibility of meeting people. Find ways to have fun. Work out because you want to be stronger and healthier. Sign up for community college classes on topics you find interesting.
If you do meet someone interesting in the process, cool! But don’t let that be your focus.
And yeah dating apps all suck for many, many reasons.
kicksystem@lemmy.world 11 months ago
That seems like super generic advice. Why would you give it to anyone? Are you more qualified somehow than the people you give it to?
carl_the_llama@lemmy.world 11 months ago
It’s an advice it’s up to you or anyone who recives it, if you want to follow it or not
kicksystem@lemmy.world 11 months ago
Sure, but even so you’re nudging people in a direction that may or may not be the right direction. Some justification for advice is in order, right? I don’t know, perhaps @figaro@lemdro.id is a social psychologist who has spent years researching this topic?
figaro@lemdro.id 11 months ago
Lol what do you want from me 😅
kicksystem@lemmy.world 11 months ago
I don’t know. Some justification for your advice maybe? I know you intend well, but I am genuinely wondering how you know whether your advice is right and why you feel qualified to give advice.
Just one thing, you can say dating apps all suck, but I found my wife on a dating app, so maybe weave that into your story as well if possible :)