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The apps served a purpose. They raised the available pool of possible dates from “who’s in this bar with me right now” to “everyone in a 10 mile radius” or whatever, and everyone is there for the same reason, mostly.

But it also doesn’t have to be all or nothing. It shouldn’t be. Use an app you like and also go to in-person dating events. Just use apps if that’s your speed. Fuck the apps and go out there and meet people at the local cafe, or board game night, or beer league softball, or whatever. It can augment the old ways. It doesn’t have to replace the old ways.

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Patches@sh.itjust.works ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

From “who’s in this bar with me right now” to "everyone in the entire world but mostly Instagram hoes, and Russian spam bots

FYFY

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- Clbull@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
  You forgot ‘South East Asian and African women falsifying their location to match with Western men to hunt for the spouse and the means to a green card.’
  
  That’s what 99% of my matches on dating apps are.
  
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  - A_L1FE@lemmings.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
    He got the 110% match rizz
    
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    Clbull@lemmy.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
    It’s more of a problem with Okcupid than anything else.
    
    Customer Support gifted me a month of Premium half a year ago after a really bad experience I had with another user harassing me. I found out that nearly all of the 100+ likes I had on my Okcupid profile were from ladies who didn’t even live on the same continent as me. They’d just switch cities and countries all the time, then disclose where they actually lived in their profile description.
    
    GPS spoofing is incredibly easy to pull off, and despite it literally being a violation of the site’s Community Guidelines, their customer service team really don’t give a shit. Quote:
    
    Also, your profile details such as age, height, location, etc. must be accurate. We restrict searching and showing profiles based on mutual fit for details like age, location, gender, and orientation for a reason: so that you can find a person who is looking for someone just like you. Changing these details to appear in searches that you would not otherwise is not allowed and will result in your profile being banned.
    
    I logged into my account for the first time in about two months. I still see matches I reported that remain unbanned to this day.
    
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    MadBob@feddit.nl ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago
    They’re saying he can’t count on anyone any more.
    
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