Comment on Another 62 ‘Girls Do Porn’ Victims Sue Pornhub for $600 Million
Ookami38@sh.itjust.works 11 months agoAnd I’ve stated my view many, many times. I’m not cool with women getting abused. I would vastly prefer it if everything was ethical. It’s not a realistic goal, and thus not one I entertain.
I consume porn. Most people consume porn. I have almost certainly watched a woman be raped. I have acknowledged that, as shitty of a thing as it is. I also do my best to ensure that the porn I consume is as ethical as possible. That’s a REALISTIC goal. You will not keep the whole of the world from consuming porn, it’s a useless endeavor. You CAN help educate people on what to look for in porn to help ensure it’s safe. You CAN make some noise about the production companies being scumbags.
Happy? I’ve said all this already, but it’s not a simple yes or no, there’s nuance, and it will be lost.
LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 months ago
Yeah, you said you’d do your best to ensure the porn you watch is ethical. I question what lengths you’d be willing to go to so that you’re certain of that, but I’ll take that you’re willing to admit some work is owed on the part of men consuming porn to ensure that what they’re consuming is ethical.
Do I think that its entirely possible to ever be 100% sure? No, and I will always avoid it for the rest of my life. So much as witnessing it feels inherently wrong, as I do not know the circumstances under which it is filmed. I implore people to do the same, but saying that you’ll go out of your way to try and be sure that your not consuming sexual abuse materials is at least acknowledging that its not acceptable to you.
Think about it next time you’re watching a video. Don’t berate yourself but imagine the circumstances it was filmed other, whether that woman feels safe and feels like she can safely withdraw consent. Be empathetic to her, see her as an actual person and not a commodity being distributed. And follow through, you say you’ll try and vet the content you consume - actually do that. And when women talk about how porn affects them, how it affects their relationships their careers and the way they’re treated and viewed by society - listen. If you don’t hate us then you should consider our perspectives and our experiences with an industry that affects us uniquely in a way it doesn’t equally affect men.