Its because your perspectives clash. They are saying the problems you have are caused by people behaving poorly, and you are saying its because the AI is inherently flawed.

They do have a point, if I were to pick up a hammer and throw it through a window, I can’t really blame the hammer for the broken window.

I do think we have to hold each other to some higher moral standard where we put people above profit, which would reduce a lot of abuse. Its astonishing that so many programmers would justify AI use knowing it may be causing harm to many others in their field.