Tonight I’ve tried a bunch of options

revolt/stoat, and I couldn’t make voice channels at all. If I could and it worked fine probably would have used that immediately

spacebar chat, got the server running just fine, no idea which UI to use, and when I tried the options I couldn’t connect to the server and it was really clunky

setup team speak 6, immediately wanted me to create an account on their servers, rm -rf

setup mumble - might actually work, but looks like ass, friends are gonna be skeptical

setting up full blown matrix now I guess.