Yikes, lot’s of bad advice in this thread.

My advice: Go develop an actual threat model and find and implement mitigations to the threats you’ve identified.

If you can’t do that, that’s totally okay; it’s a skill that takes a lot of time and effort to learn and is well-compensated in the industry.

You will need to pay for it. Either through an individual assessment by someone who knows what they’re doing, managed hosting services where the hoster is contractually liable and has implemented such measures, by risking becoming part of a botnet or by not hosting in a world-public manner.

My recommendations:

• Pay for proper managed hosting for every part of your system that you are not capable of securing yourself. This is a general rule that even experienced people follow by i.e. renting a VPS rather than exposing their own physical HW. There are multiple grades to this such as SaaS, PaaS and IaaS.
• Research, evalue and implement low-hanging fruit measures that massively reduce the attack surface. One such measure would be to not host in a manner that is accessible to the entire world and instead pay for managed authenticated access that is limited to select people (i.e. VPN such as Tailscale)
• git gud