That’s all fine and well as an internal idea why you don’t want to have kids, but when anti-natalism became a “thing” that started attracting like-minds it became another group of insane people online pushing their anti-society ideals, and if we’re going to go out quietly into the night, we should do it with the least amount of harm, and I would rather we put that energy into taking better care of the people we already have.
If society collapses, it will be even more suffering and more harm to more people and if populations collapse, so will society. I am deeply involved in logistics and nobody really gets how much suffering a population collapse could be for billions of people.
All that aside, I still think it’s a narrow perspective, because unless you know something I don’t, we don’t know if there’s an alternative to existing and experiencing things, I mean… you’re going to die, and you will be dead forever. If you’re a teacher you should know the basic ideas about the universe and how everything appears to be probabilistic in nature. Eventually, after all the stars die and a number of years pass that make time meaningless, it will eventually all happen again. In some form or another. The universe will always be experiencing itself, not having kids now just means that conscious experience is going to express somewhere else, some distant configuration. It happened once already, and few things in nature are singular.
You are fantastically, amazingly lucky you exist in this form and in this time and space, because odds are much better that you would have been a short-lived small animal, to live desperately and die horribly. That seems to be the far more likely state for the conscious experience. You (not you specifically, but singular sense of self broadly) will likely go through quintillions of reformations where you just are crustacean that gets cronched by some predator or a primate who suffers horribly and dies after her family is murdered by another tribe. We don’t know if the alternative to this is better, odds are it isn’t, we don’t know if you are actually deciding if you’re bringing in a new life or only changing the shape of your own conscious experience in this universe. We don’t even know if you have a choice at all, and are not just post-hoc rationalizing decisions you’ve already made.
Anti-natalism has a noble idea behind it, but like so many “ism’s” it’s extremely human-biased in it’s foundational beliefs and I don’t assume to know enough to make it a “thing” in my life or endorse it because it feels dumb. Not in a “you’re dumb for believing it” way, but “we’re all dumb, this doesn’t help with that” kind of way.
I’m not saying we should breed like rabbits (but we do need to work to keep population levels from causing a mass starvation and migration crisis) but I’m also not saying the opposite. This is a neutral issue to me because the cosmic perspective makes it silly. Do you know for sure if you’re actually reducing suffering? Or just reducing your own guilt? For all we know, this is as good is as it gets.
lessthanluigi@lemmy.sdf.org 1 day ago
Wow, a very impressive, nuanced, and detailed explination about the ideology. A much better argument for anything than I can conjur up myself.
Alright, I am that person. Then again now that I see you have written about some people arguing for anti-natalisim from a nihilistic perspective vs a utilitarian one. I usually see more of the nihilistic arguments, which to me I just outright ignore for having too much of a negativity bias, especially these days.
TLDR: you are better than me
wolframhydroxide@sh.itjust.works 1 day ago
That’s fair, and I can’t speak for others, but at the very least, it’s a generalisation which I believe is unwarranted. I can simultaneously believe that it is morally questionable to choose to have a child, but also that a child, once born, places upon all members of society a moral duty of care in its upbringing, not only for harm reduction, but to work toward the betterment of society writ-large, so that we can potentially make the future act of procreation less morally concerning.