That’s fair, yes.

I think this might both be caused by media portraying relationships weirdly. On the one hand difficulty in long term relationships is displayed as a reason to end the relationship, while difficulty in new relationships is portrayed as something that warrants going to crazy lengths with huge romantic gestures to save the relationship.

In reality it’s just the other way round. If you start your relationship and there’s stuff where the partners are seriously incompatible, that’s a good reason to end it while investment and commitment is still low and there’s not a lot of cost to ending the relationship. On the other hand, if you have a long-term high-commitment relationship, investing more effort in saving it totally makes sense.