Comment on Circumcision classed as possible child abuse in draft CPS document
SwingingTheLamp@midwest.social 10 hours agoGenerally, I think it’s a situation of “people don’t miss what they never knew they had.”
Great insight!
I would add, though, that you absolutely can miss what you never knew you had, even if you don’t know you’re missing it. (Else, why the concept of eggs?) I have seen several intact men in these communities say that their primary sexual sensation comes from their foreskin. Say you were one of those men, and had your primary source of sexual sensation amputated at birth. You could go through much of your life knowing that something was “not right” with sex, but not knowing what.
EldritchFeminity@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 hours ago
I completely agree and experienced it myself (missing what you don’t have). I just meant in the terms of a bunch of replies that I’ve gotten in here to the tune of “I’m a cis guy who was circumcised at birth and it doesn’t bother me at all.”
There’s the possibility of something akin to how some trans people experience permanent low-grade dysphoria and it affects their frame of reference. Basically, if we were to map the feelings of dysphoria out on a scale from 0 to 10, the average person would be at a 0 under normal circumstances, but some people are born at a 2 or a 3. So to them, a 5 would be the average person’s 3, and experiencing a 0 would be like getting glasses for the first time and realizing that trees have individual leaves and this is how everybody else sees the world. If you can only reach a 6 on a scale of how enjoyable an experience is while the average person can hit a 10, how would you have the frame of reference to know that you are or aren’t missing something when you’ve never felt a 7 or above? So these people saying that they weren’t negatively affected could just be mistaking a 6 for a 10 and there’s no way for us or them to know for certain.