Technitium is very powerful and could perfectly handle being a DNS forwarder + DHCP provider for your LAN, replacing both Pihole + cloudflared. Though it does many other things too, which can make the UI overwhelming for starters. But in my opinion if you’d like to fine-tune a lot of things like cache and custom DNS logic (via installable applets), this would be the software for you

For the upstream provider I guess Quad9 is popular enough to give you fairly good geolocated IPs, but also has some sense of privacy. The main thing is to always validate your andwers with DNSSEC as to detect and refuse any DNS tampering attempts