Though I would love to help, I’m no better with a list of unfinished projects :| I could help setup something over a call at one point but I am probably not a good person to keep you accountable.

I use TrueNAS (HexOS) to host Immich (Google Photos), Paperless NGX (Google Drive sort of), Headscale (Tailscale VPN), Syncthing file sync, Backblaze cloud backups, Emby, etc.