Since I’m the privileged default of male at birth and comfortable being a man, I don’t have to be made to feel my gender too often.

Women and femmes get catcalled and harassed. I never have. Women get told to shut up subtly or not, and get their work stolen by men. I don’t. Enbys non-conforming people might get forced into the Man Box and asked “what are you?” I don’t get those questions. So I just get to go about my day not getting my gender shoved in my face.

That said, I’m fairly uncomfortable in highly-masculine situations. Like bros hanging out smelling like shit talking about cars and barbecue and tits. I like a lot of man-coded stuff though, like lifting weights and blasting heavy metal. I also like “softer” stuff like birdwatching and fashion (tho mostly men’s fashion).