Comment on How do you "feel" gender?
kkj@lemmy.dbzer0.com 20 hours agoI simply accepted my AGAB
you are cisgender.
Huh? Plenty of trans people accept their AGAB for some amount of time before realizing that it isn’t correct.
i want to ask if you are certain of this, because simply not possessing any feelings positive or negative about your gender doesn’t mean you’d be fine if you woke up as the opposite or something in-between… you would also be forced to see your body and yourself differently because others would treat you as the new gender you are now presenting as. still don’t care?
In my case, still no. I mean, it would be inconvenient to explain to everyone I know why I suddenly look completely different, but beyond that, I don’t think I’d care. Obviously, I can’t know for certain unless it happens, and any experiment that attempted to find out would be absurdly unethical, but I’m as certain as I reasonably can be.
About the second part: Yup. I wouldn’t really care either.
I also don’t care about which pronouns people use referring to me. And while I’m completely fine with my body, having a different one sound doesn’t sound unpleasant. It actually sounds like an interesting experience when it comes to changing perspectives.
chosensilence@pawb.social 14 hours ago
my bad lol i don’t mean it that way, i meant overall if you are accepting of your AGAB you are living as a cisgender person. you can “accept” it in your mind but remain uncomfortable enough to further pursue lines of questioning, yes, but if you haven’t had any incongruence then i would feel it appropriate to say you are cis.
i get it, but i have been certain of many things only to have lived the opposite result. my point is that you might not realize how relevant your assumed gender is to your overall personal image until people are constantly commenting on it and noticing it.