I did this about a year ago, and started with tailscale. But for some bizarre reason, tailscale would cause my entire internet connection to drop. I had the internet provider come out 5 times to fix it, i got a new router twice, they even checked for cable problems between my house and the neighbourhood switch. All to no avail. I would lose internet connection several times a day until i would reboot my router. I then found someone on their forum mention that tailscale was causing problems, so i turned it off. The problems stopped. I found no way to mitigate this.

I ended up running wireguard, which works great for me, but does have a bit of a learning curve. I have rented a tiny cloud server which is the central hub, and all of my services run in podman with their own wireguard config. I run my own dns for the lacal domains. It took me a bit of effort, but is now running very stable.