I was also regularly abused as a kid and I can confirm I’ve never dated a teenager while in my 30s. Being abused is not an excuse for perpetuating abuse.
You lambast others for their reductive thinking while you post something like that? Pots and kettles come to mind.
tegs_terry@feddit.uk 9 months ago
And it’s not reductive to weigh the issue based solely on your circumstances?
There’s a weight of evidence to suggest a correlation. There’s evidence to the contrary, too, which should also be considered. I just wondered if anybody’s factoring it in at all, I certainly haven’t heard or read mentioned much in mainstream news.
Arrakis@feddit.uk 9 months ago
I imagine it’s not mentioned because of the whole “not all victims are abusers so it’s somewhat irrelevant” schtick
tegs_terry@feddit.uk 9 months ago
I wasn’t mentioning it in that spirit, certainly not in his defence. I think there’s a difference between understanding and condonation that many (to wit, you) fail to appreciate.
Also, I don’t think advocating reason and due process should be stigmatised, whatever the motivation.
Arrakis@feddit.uk 9 months ago
Then why were you mentioning it?
No one is stigmatising it, you just seem to be doing a poor job of sticking to it.