“If you can’t configure Docker, reverse proxies, and Yaml files, you shouldn’t be self-hosting.”

If this is an example of gatekeeping, I think you are misjudging.

Whenever self-hosting there’s a very real risk of exposing your private data to the internet. Potentially a lot more private data than you’d otherwise expose via cloud providers. This risk necessitates a basic understanding of some of the importand bits and how to operate them securely. If not for that, then anything would go.

Understanding docker, reverse proxy, and YAML which is used to configure those is part of probably the simplest way to get to secure self-hosting. I’d add a self-hosted VPN to access local resources. I’m not aware of a magic UI solution that does it all and securely. Docker compose files are very accessible. A couple of those followed by docker compose up -d and you have a basic env up and running.