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• jve@lemmy.world ⁨19⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

  why risk it?

  Because there’s almost no risk involved.

  So why risk it, if you’re going to potentially be making the situation suck for the other person, I’m wondering

  Answers to this question, and more, are provided in some of the links provided.

  The chances of making “the situation suck” are exceedingly small. The chances it “goes well” are quite high. A couple friendly words between strangers. A story to tell later.

  Of particular note

  His curiosity led to a series of experimentsrevealing that train and bus commuters who interacted with other passengers experienced a more pleasant ride — even when they believed they would prefer the solitude of, say, reading a book.

  It is fear that the person sitting next to us won’t enjoy talking to us that makes us keep to ourselves, Epley found. But when we do talk to each other, those social interactions with strangers tend to be both less awkward and more enjoyable than most people predict.

  You seem to completely discount this possibility, while simultaneously overblowing the risk.

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  • RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz ⁨19⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

    It just seems a bit selfish to try and “connect” in a sotuation where they can’t leave. I get that it is your thing but at least on a plane it would be bettee to just chill for the duration of it

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    • jve@lemmy.world ⁨19⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

      There may be a selfish component to it. Doesn’t make it a selfish act.

      I get that it’s your thing

      It’s my thing after I read a few of these papers (you can find the links, and read them if you like, they’re in my other comments) and started giving it a shot.

      it would be bettee to just chill for the duration of it.

      Yes, you have made it very clear that for you, you believe that this is the case.

      The data show that a lot of people feel this way before they try it, but are pleasantly surprised after.

      After all nothing negative about that, they might try to connect with you if they’re up for it

      Nothing negative about what? “Being chill?” I think you’ll find that I’m pretty chill.

      You seem to think I’m nagging them for the duration, but as I’ve explained, it’s really more of creating an opening.

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      • RaivoKulli@sopuli.xyz ⁨18⁩ ⁨hours⁩ ago

        You won’t cause anything negative by just chilling during the flight. Meanwhile, by trying to connect, you might make someone’s travel worse. So if you value the fellow passengers, best move is not to risk it, at least not on the plane. Otherwise you’re just gambling with their mood, which seems a bit shitty.

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