Honestly even if they are, there’s a concept of freedom, including freedom to make mistakes, and another concept of what’s natural. Most relationships are flawed one way or another, doesn’t mean we should have state officials deciding who sleeps with whom.

But in any case - when it’s about women, the real reason is usually that the one saying doesn’t want to feel competition from men much older than them, or competition to their son/nephew(-s) from men much older, or something like that. It’s usually people with fucked up ideas of relationships, who’d consider leaking woman’s one private photo as something as bad as rape and warranting murder, but who’d not consider grooming wrong at all, because the groomer is “taking care of her”, letting down a woman even unknowingly as being a bullshit person, but trying to decide for a woman as fine, and things like that. Shit that was normal in Victorian books, but isn’t anymore.

OK, I’m reminiscing on my dad too much. I once heard him talking to a therapist over a video call and starting that “I have a son your age …” (I’m autistic with BAD and, in no small part, it was kinda hard to have relationships having such a closer family) line, couldn’t help cringing so loud he shut the fuck up. The therapist apparently was cold-blooded enough that she advised him to apologize before me, LOL.