I don’t know how up to date this is, because I haven’t used it in a while but it was helpful to me when I was first getting started: https://github.com/mikeroyal/Self-Hosting-Guide#getting-started-with-self-hosting

I ended up going with proxmox because you get all the features of proxmox, and you can use docker on it. So, best of both worlds. For some youtube resources, check out:

• Jim’s Garage:
  • https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCUUTdohVElFLSP4NBnlPEwA
  • https://iv.ggtyler.dev/channel/UCUUTdohVElFLSP4NBnlPEwA
• Learn Linux TV:
  • https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxQKHvKbmSzGMvUrVtJYnUA
  • https://iv.ggtyler.dev/channel/UCxQKHvKbmSzGMvUrVtJYnUA

There is also https://landchad.net/ which has some useful info and tutorials.

Lastly, these final two aren’t guides per se, but have lots of useful resources:

• https://github.com/awesome-selfhosted/awesome-selfhosted
• https://selfh.st/apps/