Just hopping in to say, first of all:

as a queer person, i’m genuinely super proud of you for realising this, and improving.

idk if you told the bully victim, but it’s good to apologise in earnest. he doesn’t need to accept it, but to you both, it’d be a weight off your shoulders.

the way i see it, you don’t need to embrace or approve of what others do - but letting them and treating them like ‘vanilla cishet’* people would get treated (ie. with respect), goes a long way. When you’re in a sauna and there are gay people, ask yourself: would I comment on a straight couple being together?

I don’t think one needs to overworry or overthink it – it’s valid to be concerned; but at the end of day, we’re all people, and you’re welcome too.

* only saying this because in my view, the ‘vanilla cishet’ person doesn’t exist, just as the full-of-fetishes/kinks queer person doesn’t exist. It’s a spectrum which is best seen as, “Who cares, but support for anything that’s mutual between consenting people of mature age, and support for whatever makes their life easier”.