Comment on How would you take 'stfu' from a stranger online, provided what you said wasn't meant to be funny?

lath@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

• Dicska@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

  I had the feeling - but, considering the above, which one would you think of when setting this from someone as the first reaction?

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  • NABDad@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    I think we’d need to know the complete context to judge.

    I could say someone like, “my doctor says I’ve got stage 4 cancer”, and a friend’s reaction might be STFU, and that could be totally reasonable.

    The only way it’s unreasonable is if the intent is to tell you to actually stop talking.

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    • Dicska@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

      While I was thinking of something similar, it’s important that in this particular case we’re talking about a conversation with a stranger, and not about breaking news. Now, I get that it all depends - what I’m curious about is your assumption of the situation’s vibe.

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      • NABDad@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

        I think it still depends on the intent and the setting.

        If the intent is to end the conversation, then it’s very rude. If it is just being used as an exclamation, then it wouldn’t bother me in a casual setting.

        In a chat during an online game as an exclamation: no big deal.

        In a response to a personal story shared during a church service: not a good look.

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  • lath@lemmy.world ⁨2⁩ ⁨days⁩ ago

    I’m the f adding type, so from my pov, it’s usually the second type unless the person distinguishes themselves as an asshat.

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