It’s our normal language for referencing each other. “The wife”, “the husband”. I’m sorry if it offended you.

As for the WAF comment, it doesn’t mean she can’t fix it, just that she has no interest in the nitty gritty of how it works. This seems to be a common occurrence with smart homes. It’s FAR more likely the male partner is interested in building it. The female partner tends to only care that it works. (And that their partner is enjoying themselves).

So far this gender stereotype holds up strongly (90%+)