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SincerityIsCool@lemmy.ca 1 day ago
You should look into polyamory/consensual non-monogamy. What your describing doesn’t have to be seen as some sort of weird perverse thing doomed to failure and return to the status quo. It is a legitimate family structure.
I’ve been in a polyamorous family for almost a decade now. Most of it was three (the sort of v shape you describe) but also with a larger (currently six) non-domestic polycule. I’m not the tip of the v but I love my metamours (eord for partners’ partners) as family.
It’s viable. The trick is a gratuitous amount of candid conversation, and a dedication to the family.
Gork@sopuli.xyz 1 day ago
With that many people, do you all share resources? Is imagine a six person polycule would be much easier financially if everyone (or at least four of you) have jobs. I’m having a hard time making ends meet with two, and I would imagine the added stability of six would drive down the cost of living.
SincerityIsCool@lemmy.ca 1 day ago
To clarify, by polycule I mean the total chain of romantic relationships. Currently it’s four of us living together, and two more living together as a couple where me and my chosen family member have been dating one of them for years. For most of it, the section living together was three of us, romantically a v but more than that we think of eachother as chosen family.
It definitely helps with financial stability insofar as there’s a lot of buffer when someone is between jobs, but otherwise it’s not all that different. Housing space needs scale with number of people in the family, after all. We’re starting to look in to purchasing a house together, and to an extent the purchasing power of four working professionals helps there, but if we also want kids it means looking at big houses so again it kinda evens out. There’s also an added layer of legal complexity that becomes necessary with home ownership - we don’t have a ready made framework like marriage.
pennomi@lemmy.world 1 day ago
Monogamy? In THIS economy?