The way I do it for a family member with Tailscale is them having a couple of boxes down there (n100 with their Jellyfin server, and a RPI4 with a TVHServer) with my Tailnet signed in, and those boxes running both a “subnet router” and an "exit node"that both me and said fam member can use.

This means she has permissions to use the exit node wherever like I do to my own local LAN, to connect to her LAN and access things locally since you can assign them via the ACL’s / device perms.

I know reading docs can suck sometimes but honest to god the ones that Tailscale put up are pretty awesome.

tailscale.com/kb

Along with all the YT videos about it I didn’t even have to go nagging on forums to get it to work, and that’s a general first for me.