Here’s what I would recommend, I think it would be good to remove the rule exemption permitting loli (it is actually illegal in the us. Then afterwards because I know lemmy Instances won’t be so open to forgiveness I recommend changing the subdomain from lemmy to something else like lemmings or forum (can be whatever you want it just can’t be lemmy because that’s been defederated) and making the lemmy one redirect to that, then the instance will be able to Federate again and since the rule exemption that concerned everyone won’t be there you likely won’t get defederated again as long people here behave well.