Comment on How do you get over a breakup with someone who was (and is) also a very close friend?
SkyNTP@lemmy.ml 5 days ago
You didn’t mention how long you were together. General rule of thumb, it takes just as long for the feelings in a relationship to fade as it takes for them to grow.
Also, generally speaking, if the breakup is sudden, unammicable, or leaving you confused, that’s probably a sign that there was poor communication in the relationship. Relationships are built on communication, not feelings. This is a good time to evaluate how you can be a better communicator. Do not blame or wallow in the shortcomings of your ex, this will just stunt your growth as a person, and perpetuate how you are currently feeling.
My advice, focus on you and your future. 23 is incredibly young. What you are going through and feeling is extremely common. You have lots of time to meet new people, but focus on yourself first.
Rich_Benzina@feddit.it 5 days ago
We were together for two years, if you’re right i can expect some fun months to come haha. Jokes aside, i think you are right for there were some problema in communications, from both sides but in all homesty i cant say i wasnt expecting the breakup. I smelled it from at least a month before. Im not the type to blame others, im rather more likely to blame me and overthink my mistakes. Thank you for your advice, as i said in another comment i’m trying to focus on university at the moment and my future in general. I just have to accept the fact that there will be someone else, one day ore another. Thanks again, wish you a good day :)