Comment on Do you think my co-worker will hear about this?
Soup@lemmy.world 2 days ago
If ya’ll were gunna date she’d find out pretty quick anyway, and if that’s a deal-breaker for her then you’re probably better off staying friends. And maybe her friend is a bro, or at least a professional, and didn’t say anything.
If you didn’t even want to date her at some point, then it really ain’t anything, ya know?
JBrady64@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Yea, I get what you’re saying. I wasn’t planning on dating. She already has a bf. Just embarrassing if she knows I’m small down there.
Maalus@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Why is it embarrassing?
JBrady64@lemmy.world 2 days ago
How is it not? Thinking about them laughing behind my back and making jokes. I mean I’ll get over it, but definitely embarrassing.
november@lemmy.vg 2 days ago
If you’re for real: Almost nobody cares about your dick size. The few people who do are no better than the creeps who laugh at fat people for existing in public. Body shamers are the ones who should be embarrassed.
If this is all some elaborate humiliation kink thing: Stop roping nonconsenting internet bystanders into your fetish.
Maalus@lemmy.world 2 days ago
If there is a median size, then half the men are under it. The only reason your coworker would be laughing behind your back about it, is if she was a shallow person - at that point she’ll be laughing about a lot more - height, looks.
At the end of the day, you cannot change your size, anymore than you can change your eyecolor, regrow hair as a bald person, etc. Ultimately, nobody cares about your dicksize, the only person that might is your partner, and even then it’s a prefference. A partner will never check all the “prefference” checkboxes either, since a partner that is “perfect for you” isn’t some magical entity that was created by reading your mind.
LostMonkey@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Some woman prefer a “more manageable size”. Also one that won’t hurt them.
Not all woman find a big one comfortable.
CmdrShepard49@sh.itjust.works 2 days ago
How would they know what your dick size is unless you got hard during waxing? You stated yourself that you’re a grower like a lot of guys and I’m sure a person who waxes genitals for a living would recognize this. This doesn’t make any sense.
TwistyLex@discuss.tchncs.de 2 days ago
The size you’re describing isn’t small enough to even make jokes about. Believe me, I’ve heard women joke about size and it’s the 2 inches or less while erect range; and even then it’s about bad hookups or guys that have been awful to them.
Girls that see random flaccid dick regularly are even less likely to joke about size.
Nomad@infosec.pub 2 days ago
Size doesn’t matter. I’m close friends with a dude dating in his 50s and his dick just doesn’t work like it used to after he had a heart attack. The women are usually very understanding and often like the challenge. Someone loving you for who you are wouldn’t even be bothered by something like that as long as it’s about love. And if she physically needs more sometimes, just buy a dildo to help her out. Nothing more or less as if she needs dirty talk. Just oblige and make her happy as she makes you happy.
Soup@lemmy.world 2 days ago
I think just go about your business assuming her friend kept it on the down-low, and it doesn’t seem like it’s led to her treating you worse so all good. Nothing to be embarrassed about if you trust her to be a good person, which you seem to.
I get it, of course, it’s certainly a little awkward and not a position I would want to be in. I’ll bet the not knowing if she knows is probably worse than if you could know for sure she does, eh?
JBrady64@lemmy.world 2 days ago
100% the not knowing is stressing me out. I feel like it’s at least 75% chance they discussed it considering they are best friends. Your advise is correct, but it will be awkward for a while.
Soup@lemmy.world 2 days ago
Absolutely a little awkward for a bit. But you got a big friendly hello and that’s a win, yea?
Was just thinking maybe her friend said or offered to say and she went “why the fuck should I care?”. Everything is equally possible, take ‘er easy and remember that you’ve got this no matter how it’s sliced :)