Aussieiuszko@aussie.zone 9 months ago
Mate, first off he’s not your best friend.
Could anyone here imagine if their friends did something so horrible to their mother like this? I wouldn’t fucking go hang out with them afterwards, like fuck he’s your friend.
He is your father, and apparently a terrible one if this is the life lessons he wants to impart on his son that it’s okay to be an immature fuck and cheat over get a divorce.
Cutting him off 100% doesn’t sound right, but you have clearly chosen his side and to stand by him despite how wrong it is — you’re going to have to work hard to make up for your poor choice.
You can’t immediately call dad a horrible person. We only know one side of the story. Maybe mom was cheating too? Maybe mom was abusive? Maybe this marriage was over years ago and they stayed together for the kid?
He needs to tell each parent he’s not taking sides and loves them both. People make mistakes and can be forgiven.
This person likes victim blaming
He is their father. If they currently have a healthy relationship with their parents why should they ruin that just to have their mother’s back in this? That sounds like a great way to become sadabout this in the future.
wellheh@lemmy.sdf.org 9 months ago
Why are you suddenly deciding that being with his father is a bad choice? We literally know nothing about whether he’s a good dad- it is possible to be a good parent and provider and a bad husband. No matter what happens in his parents relationship, both will still be his parents and it’s the parents’ job to sort it out. What we do know here is that his mom is absolutely a red flag- you do NOT manipulate your children into taking sides in a divorce. The parents should be there to support their children and not the other way around.