It is not fucking worth years of growth just to bleach it so hard it falls apart, just to be a “mall Santa”? Malls are dead, get a fake

I was also stuck around 4 or so inches for a while, and once you get to that length (takes a few years, be patient) it really needs a lot of moisture to keep going. I don’t quite keep up with it as much as I’d like to, but if I did, here’s what I’d do:

• never ever ever let that 3-in-1 touch it again
• get a better conditioner and apply it daily.
• at your length, probably also soap every day or two. Goats milk bar soap, same stuff I use on my face, as recommended by my dermatologist. I only soap the beard every few days, a rinse with the conditioner soak is enough to keep it clean for a while if I do it daily
• beard oil or beard butter. I wet my hands and apply a good glob of beard butter to my still-wet beard after showering. I’ve heard oils work well, too. Leave-in conditioner is essential. More goat milk. Coconut oil. Jojoba. Castor. Hempseed. That sort of thing.

Finally, listen to and take cues from women in your life who have long hair. They probably know more than either of us.