Okay, so: is it because you reasonably expect that from your friend? Have they given you reason to expect these things? Or is it more just an anxiety thing? Like, you know it’s not a reasonable fear, but your brain still won’t let go?

If A: no, that’s not normal and he’s hella toxic. Especially the online anonymity thing- what the fuck?

If B: no, that’s not exactly normal but anxiety is a bitch sometimes.