I’m so glad you like !snakes@lemmy.world.

We have different thoughts and memories with different animals. We hear what people say and they can become our own thoughts. We live life and it becomes our own emotions.

Sometimes the memories take charge of the ship and we’re in for the ride. Sometimes our thoughts take charge of the ship and we’re in for the ride.

Mindfulness can help us choose, regardless of what our emotions or thoughts say or do.

If I had to choose one book to recommend, maybe check out How Emotions are Made, by Lisa Feldman Barret. Read it and you’ll have clear answers to your questions and more.