I don’t blame you for wanting to move. My partner and I are straight-passing, cis-passing, white folk in a blue state. We’re thinking of leaving the country. (Well, I am. My partner’s kind of like yours–not convinced we’re in danger.)

You’re much more visibly “other” than we are. One thought I’ve seen floated around is that options are good. If you can claim an international citizenship/passport (through, I dunno, Irish parents or something) it’s worth doing.