I agree completely. The healthiest our online ecosystem has ever been was when parents were required, and empowered, to make decisions for their own children about appropriate internet usage.
Comment on UK police chiefs call for ban on social media for under-16s
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 6 days agoI’m absolutely against this.
I genuinely believe social media is damaging to young people
As do I. I still am against the government making these decisions, especially for kids as old as 16. At 16, kids should be curious about what the government is hiding, and access to information should absolutely be available. However, it should also be under the direction of parents, at least until they leave the house.
Parents should be the ones regulating this, not the government. Some kids are mature enough to handle things like social media at 16, perhaps younger, while others aren’t. Parents should be on the hook for allowing their kids access to things that could be damaging, but could also be an incredibly useful tool.
I say this as a parent. I want to be the one who decides what my kids should and should not access, and I will peacefully ignore this law and use a VPN or whatever I need to in order to evade this ban. I don’t know what that looks like in the UK, but I’m absolutely going to do this in my area once my kid hits their first block (my US state implemented age requirements for SM, and if my kids hit that, I’ll teach them to use a VPN).
swelter_spark@reddthat.com 5 days ago
TheGrandNagus@lemmy.world 5 days ago
This is for under-16s.
And why specifically be against the government protecting kids’ safety in this way? They already do it in countless other ways, from rules about how you’re allowed to discipline children, medication standards, age ratings, restrictions on public drinking, preventing driving, preventing gun ownership, etc.
Why shouldn’t the government make any decisions for this aspect of children’s safety, but all others are ok?
This is for under-16s. Under-16s are not 16. They are under 16.
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 5 days ago
Hence why I said “as old as.” Someone who is 15.5 is basically 16, yet they fall under the rule.
Because they’re not protecting their safety, they’re using it as an excuse to pass regressive policy. Kids under 16 will be struggling with a number of things, from gender identity to abusive parents, and social media can be the best way to get the sense of community they need.
The closest example you gave is gun ownership, but that goes back to cigarettes and alcohol. The restriction should be about consent (i.e. do they understand the hazards and responsibilities associated w/ the product), and kids can’t legally consent until they’re adults. Social media doesn’t exactly fall under that umbrella, you don’t need to consent to interact w/ social media.
But gun ownership is also interesting in another way: ID requirements are often stored when you purchase a gun (e.g. to run a background check or something), just like it would need to be for social media. I trust gun stores a lot more than social media companies because they don’t stand to profit from misusing your ID information.
Due to the privacy concerns and relative lack of risk to the public (meaning, a kid having access to a SM account won’t hurt others in anywhere near the same way as them having a car or gun), I just don’t see it being justifiable. This just sounds like conservative wankery to “protect the kids” while the real intent is attacking LGBT kids and allowing SM companies to hoover up data. And no, I don’t trust digital privacy laws to be all that effective here, since they’re only fined when they get caught, and it’s pretty easy to avoid getting caught.
TheGrandNagus@lemmy.world 5 days ago
There has to be a cutoff somewhere, otherwise you fall into the trap of “well 15.5 is basically 16, so 15.5 is fine. And 15 is basically 15.5 so that must be fine too. And I guess 14.5 is basically 15 so…”
Kids would be safer and mentally better off with less access to social media.
All those bullet points you listed are wrong. The state has laws surrounding what you can and can’t do. So laws do have a say.
You say disciplining children is up to the parents, but the reality is you can’t just do what you want. If your idea of disciplinary action to your child is starving them, the state will rightly intervene. Because the state has laws to protect children.
Privacy concerns are legitimate. “We shouldn’t have laws to protect kids in this way, for some arbitrary reason I haven’t explained” is not.
Children should have safeguards. Parents are not always aware, technical enough to prevent, or caring enough to prevent kids from being damaged by social media (and boy does social media mess kids up). It is not my position that children of those parents should have to suffer unnecessarily.
sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works 5 days ago
Many kids, sure. And their parents should take responsibility to only introduce them to SM when they’re ready.
I was clarifying which are limitations on children directly and which are limitations on parents.
That’s on the parents. If they’re going to be effective parents, they need to be aware of that stuff, and if they’re negligent enough to not bother, there should be consequences.
Sure, but unfortunately you can’t charge someone until a crime is actually committed. Parents who neglect their kids should be charged, and the punishments should be severe enough that parents are motivated to protect their kids. “Neglect” doesn’t mean “allows their kid to use social media,” it means “didn’t step in when their child was suffering.”
A lot of kids can use social media just fine without negative repercussions. Some kids cannot. We shouldn’t be banning it for everyone just because some kids can’t handle it and their parents aren’t involved enough to notice.
Likewise, to enforce this, you need to ID everyone, and that’s an unacceptable privacy violation. Instead of violating everyone privacy to try to prevent some kids from having a negative interaction w/ social media, we should instead educate parents to know what the dangers are of SM, and charge those who don’t even try with neglect.