Comment on The fediverse has a bullying problem

RobotToaster@mander.xyz ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

• poVoq@slrpnk.net ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

  This guy also being a perpetrator of bullying because they didn’t like moderation decisions makes this post a bit ironic though 🤷

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  • PhilipTheBucket@ponder.cat ⁨1⁩ ⁨week⁩ ago

    Yeah, I alluded to that when I said I’m probably guilty of it sometimes.

    A reasonable person could say that I tend to bully the mods when I disagree with something they’ve done. I do think that when you sign up to control people’s experience and delete messages you don’t agree with, you’re signing up to have your decisions criticized. Reasonably or not. It’s absurd to say that no one is allowed to get upset or air their grievances when the moderators apply moderation in a way that they don’t like, because the end state of that setup is Reddit. But in fairness you are not wrong, sometimes I take it too far, and I think I should cool it at least a little with getting embittered about people moderating me in ways I don’t like.

    Also, just for the record I’ve never had any issue on any level with you specifically. My whole anger at one of your moderators posting electoral propaganda and then banning people who disagreed with it, was that I thought he was hijacking his way into the slrpnk good graces for his own agenda, not that that was the intent behind the whole instance or anything. I’ve started being snarky towards the instance as a whole since the slrpnk admin team for some reason came out swinging hard to defend him on that, and then also gave out some further deletions and bans afterwards that I thought were equally silly, but it was more because I felt like you were supposed to be one of the good instances that supported people being able to have the conversations they wanted to have, and move the whole network in a good direction. I definitely wasn’t happy about it or looking for that embittered interaction.

    (For context for anyone who’s confused, here are some instances of what might be called bullying that I’ve done previously. The second one in particular sort of makes me cringe to post here, because it’s exactly the kind of sour grapes innuendo that I’m complaining about when people aim it at Dansup.)

    • ponder.cat/post/554966
    • ponder.cat/post/2069460/2353558
    • ponder.cat/post/2125183/2430037
    • ponder.cat/post/1330233/1550126?sort=Old
    • ponder.cat/post/2013432/2287980

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