Didn’t know that there were other options besides straight, gay, and bi. When I didn’t fall cleanly in one of those, I considered what other options were there. I was always unsure, but i went in a wrong direction full of guilt and depression, thinking if im not those, the only other option is…the worst. We don’t know what we don’t know.

I never met an asexual, or a demisexual, or any other sexuality, up to this point. I may have heard the term asexual, but it was never described to me in a way that I could relate. It wasn’t until after RE-WATCHING Bojack Horseman that I actually did thorough research on the topic, and all the stars aligned. The first time watching, it just didn’t click, I knew there was an asexual character, but I didn’t connect that i could be asexual.

I went 25 years not knowing I could be asexual. I’m 30 now. I only wish there was more representation as I grew up, but once I found out, I became the change I wanted to see, and started expressing it in my clothing, sharing with others, and helping clear up confusion.