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ZombiFrancis@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks agoI did a lot of the fun in my teens and twenties, and then realized I wanted a family and was lucky to find a career that fit.
It’s definitely a challenge to find a balance though so it can often feel like a trade-in. But if you’re honest with yourself it doesn’t have to be nor an unwanted change.
fluffykittycat@slrpnk.net 2 weeks ago
I feel like the way Society is built makes it impossible to have a family and have fun in your life, and careers are basically dead. We have to figure out how to make it work because I’m certainly in no hurry to make raising kids the only thing I do with the rest of my life
ZombiFrancis@sh.itjust.works 2 weeks ago
I get you. For me after my grandparents passed I realized I wanted to be a grandparent. So I gotta play by some of society’s stupid rules to see if I can see that through.
Careerwise: biggest thing for me was jumping into public service and working in local government–in America, no less. Now I work remotely and have a well-compensated union-represented government job with a pension that doesn’t require me to do management or have a medical or law degree.
I knew to steer clear of the Fed too, and that’s paid off in spades.
All in all though as a former kid and current parent: kids need their cool aunts and uncles, related or not, out there having fun not making them cousins. So there’s zero shame in having no rush or desire for trying to strike that balance.