Just talking from experience…

but he’s also dependent on drugs and alcohol, and was high or drunk (or both) 75% of the time we called.

IS a big redflag ! Not because of the alcohol or any other drug by itself… But because consuming any substance on a regular basis is not going to end well (physically and psychologically).

In retrospective from my past younger self, there are a lot of other things I could have done without being drunk/stone everyday.

I do like to popup some molly/shrooms occasionally (festivals/introspection…) But I really regret the past life I had with this overconsumption and self destructive behavior (for myself and others).I’m lucky I didn’t fall to deep into the rabbit hole of drugs (cocain, heroin…). It’s a slippery path/slope !

As a conclusion:

Stay away romantically from people who have an addiction issue ^^ !