Kinda cheeky I know but the instance I’m commenting from (sopuli.xyz) is a nice one imo. It’s Finnish (so there’s a similar “home” culture to here) and hosts the Ukraine war report communities so any instance trying hexbear’s shenanigans gets defederated from super quickly without much drama just to avoid them from flooding the comments section with emojis and “lib cuck NATO should die” nonsense, but beyond that (and the other usual suspects) it’s pretty open with who it federates with