First of all, a great hug to you, it’s seems that the ownership/moderation of this instance hurts you. As enjoy-er of this instance, you got my gratitude.

I think that de-federation should be only for extreme instances that allow the worst crimes, besides that, i think that every one should be his own judge. As you stated is a problem that you cant block an instance currently, but hopeful this will be solved soon,

Sorry, English is not my first language.