@4Robato So it's a PITA to set it up... but Friendica seems to solve this issue. I wish there was a decent mobile app to recommend... but I really like the bookface theme. But yeah, here I am posting this to lemmy and the post below this is from mastodon or various other fedi's

But it is a bit of a pain to set up to get it how I like it... by default they basically give you all the keys to the castle and laugh at you. when you dont know where to go