Comment on Am I a bad friend/rude for not engaging with my friends and giving one-word responses?

• TeamAssimilation@infosec.pub ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Of course not, if I was chatting with you I’d feel like I was bothering you.

  “How are you?”

  “Listening to music”

  “What band?”

  “It’s on shuffle, I think it’s Metallica”

  “What song from them? I live Metallica”

  “IDK, let me check. It’s ‘Sad But True’. I think it’s actually good”.

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  “What are you up to today?”

  “Watching TV”

  “What show?”

  “It’s Rick and Morty, but don’t tell anyone”

  “Why?”

  “I’m don’t want others to think I’m an incel or something”

  My mom and mother-in-law are in their 80s, and they’re not great texters but you can tell they’re making an effort, and that counts a lot. It’s not about caring how well you text, but how a series of dry answers might make your friends feel like a nuisance.

  You need to “groom” others to care about you so they tolerate antisocial behaviors, but not all people can be groomed this way.

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  • CatDemons4@lemmings.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    My new response as “I’M WATCHING. A MOVIE!!!” :)

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    • OccasionallyFeralya@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      That was honestly not bad until you decided to be ableist 💔

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      • CatDemons4@lemmings.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

        I just think they’re socially awkward and I prefer confident people. She blocked me because she decided to “leave me alone”. I also type in all caps a lot and people think I’m mad at them??

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    • AuroraGlamour@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

      What? So you’re ableist?

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  • RicoPeru@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    this sounds far better than how OP texts

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• RicoPeru@lemmy.blahaj.zone ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  you don’t type like a 50 year old, you type like someone who’s not interested in having a conversation

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• AuroraGlamour@lemmy.ml ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

  Not really better. How do you not know what you’re doing? Did the show just randomly come on when you turned on the TV/Metallica song came up in a playlist?

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  • CatDemons4@lemmings.world ⁨1⁩ ⁨year⁩ ago

    No

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